Now The Fun Begins...

Isaac is back in the USA, Thank God. Now the custody battle begins.

-Although they were able to pressure R' Aron Schechter in to getting the father to sign the release papers for his son from tranquility bay, he has not relinquished custody of Isaac.

Some feel that he wont because he will claim he did nothing wrong, he had Daas Torah and he was forced to get his kid out. However, Isaac is still a wild kid and still needs to be taught a lesson. This can happen as most people will move on with there lives thinking at least hes not in Jamaica. Big Mistake.

Just because he's back home does not mean that whatever happens now is better than him being there. His father may be capable of dishing out more abuse than what he has received until now. especially since he must really be angry now that he was forced to release his son.

Apparently, the only way someone can justify sending his son to behaviour mod. camp is by thinking that his kid needs to be "taught a lesson". Well, since he was forced to release his son, the lesson has not yet been taught. This mix of anger and an "unfinished lesson" can put Isaac's life in greater danger than it has been until now.

It is very important for us to keep up the pressure on Michael Hersh so that he release's custody of his son. We must remember that even if all the other claims of abuse cannot be proven, one thing remains. Isaac Hersh was sent to a behaviour modification facility outside of the USA. Anybody who can do that to their own child is unfit of raising them.

The fact that he may have been at his wits end is a bad excuse. There are better options out there.

There will be members of the Chaim Berlin community who would like to see Isaac remain in the custody of his father. Just so they can claim The whole story was a simple misunderstanding , the father is a good guy and him and R' Schechter were simply fooled by Tranquility bay into believing it was something that it was not.

Fact is there are to many parts to this story that prove the father ain't that innocent. Although the sense of urgency is now gone, we must remain vigilant.

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Just to clarify a few things about Dan Lekaff Zechus I emailed a prominent Rabbi who responded with the following guide lines:



1) I believe there is a difference in Halacha if someone is considered a Tzadik, Rosha or average, regarding how much you have to be Dan him Lekaf Zechus so if he has a "track record" it may impact this obligation.

2) If you know someone did something wrong you don't have to minimize the wrongness of the act, rather you assume that there were unusual circumstances and pressures that make it more difficult for the person to resist temptation etc. This way, while saying what he does is clearly wrong we don't have to be judgmental toward him personally.

3) We can't use this concept as a means of absolving ourselves from the obligation to protect innocent victims (i.e., you can't be a Tzadik toward the alleged perpetrator at the expense of the victim).

B"H Isaac has been saved

As I'm sure you know by now Isaac has been saved from that schvartze hell hole down in Jafaica.

Now the genius comments begin,

"The father is such an aidele guy we must be dan lekaff zechus". Oh yeah? why is the Israeli government charging him with abuse after he medicated his children without medical authorization? Did he do that with Daas Torah as well? How come the twin brother also packed off to Texas because hes afraid of his father? And after it was pointed out to him that tranquility bay really is a a hell hole how come he didn't remove him immediately? what parent in their right mind wouldn't become suspicious after hearing those reports?



Oh! and the best one is: "The boy was a danger to himself" or " I heard he was suicidal" how come suddenly we forget about being Dan Lekaff Zechus the boy? With the amount of evidence that is available proving that Isaac is mentally healthy It would be hard to believe these allegations.While down in Jamaica Dr. Pelkowits staked his career on the fact that Isaac is a healthy child and he was being abused.

Also the father had Isaac shipped of to psychiatric facility in long island, they decided there was nothing wrong with him. But the father wouldn't listen and would not come down and remove his son from there. They finally contacted Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe from Texas ,with whom Isaac had developed a relationship with in Eretz Yisrael, To have him sent to Texas. R' Wolbe took him in and Isaac finally had a sanctuary from his crazy father. Everything was just fine in Texas, so why did that rasha have his son taken, in handcuffs, to the hell hole? The father had no idea what was going on with his son for 9 months. They never spoke that whole time. But we have to be Dan Lekaff Zechuss?!?.

Yeah! Excactly! we will, Isaac became a godol hador while shtieging in Texas and they took that hieligeh Tzadik to a fardorbeneh place making him eat trief. Such a tragedy for klal yisroel .

But noooo that cant be because the father is the victim here, He certainly cant be nuts ,only innocent 15 year old's can.


And LomerZegun Isaac really had emotional problems, there are plenty of fine facility's in the good ole US of A. No need for an exotic vacation.

No More Abuse No More Excuse

isaac hersh

It seems that R' Aron schechter finally started realizing what Michael Hersh is really all about and got him to sign the release papers. Thank God.

This just show you that if it took a mammoth amount of pressure to get R' Aron to realize that Michael Hersh is an animal, How much more effort it would take for the rest of the frum world to realize that the "shiene yid " living next door can actually be a beheimedikeh child and wife abuser.

This case should dismiss all of the previous naivety that people have regarding "those poor, poor parents" who nebach have to suffer from that terrorist 12 year who does those groise aveirous. Which we also happen to do but, for us its kusher because "ints zemer shoin groiss"

So next time you see a young teenager in pain instead of tsk'kening maybe try to show them some real caring because they're probably going through hell. And if you cant do that, at least that be wary of those parents, they're not as innocent as you think. Just remember if R' Aron can be fooled so can you.

what really gets me is , how can somebody throw away his precious child to those schvartze baheimos in Jamaica?
And please don't tell me that they where saving Isaac from himself, because anybody who actually knows the boy will tell you that his greste avierah was having a girlfriend. at least we know the father couldn't destroy his sexual orientation. But I'm sure those schvartzehs in Jamaica can.

Also don't tell me "tough love" because, lets set the record straight, for starters even if somebody mistakenly believes that tough love can actually work, There are plenty of programs right here in the good ole US of A that have a great track record of graduating children that become productive members of society at a percentage rate of more than 20%. They also happen not have a bunch of lawsuits filed against them with serious allegations of child abuse including a class action suit with over 140 documented cases of abuse.

As far as tough love is concerned, First off all it never works. The most common retort is that "my parents raised me that way and look how I turned out". well, obviously not to good if you couldn't raise a normal child yourself. That's before we get into the discussion of what is considered turning out okay. Besides there are zillions of documented cases of how positive reinforcement does wonders for raising children and not one study that proves tough love actually works, period.
Second, when it says in the torah " do not spare the rod" there are a few rules that apply.
Mainly you are absolutely not allowed to hit a child when you re angry, its an issur de'oiraisa. And, by the time you cool down I think "tough love" suddenly becomes a whole lot softer. After all what person in his right mind will hit his zeese child when they're not driven by rage.

Welcome to Frum in therapy

Hi,

I'm creating this blog from the frum person in therapy. As most of you are aware by now you went for help because you where in tremendous pain and nobody in our communities understood what was realy going on. In fact, you probably did not realize yourself what was causing this hole in youre heart.
By now you are aware that the cause of this pain was a hurtful relationship with youreparent(s). Unfortunatley there are not too many people out there you can share that with because most of the frum world has there heads buried in the sand. As for confronting youre parents, at best, maybe you got a weak " but we didnt know better".
My goal is to create a blog where we can create a strong voice in the frum world, loud and thunderous so that no one will be able to claim ignorance in the way they're mechanech their children. Most of these parents stand behind what is supposedly the torahdike way of chinuch. What they "supposedly" heard some mechanech say in a shiur.

No more.No more Abuse No more Excuse

So, if you've been in therapy for a while and you understand what i'm writing, please share what the core of you're situation was. And, how it was excused by the authority figures in youre life.


Example: my father couldn't control his anger. I grew up thinking this was normal, after all he is a respected figure in the community, about whom they would say "Moshe, he's mamash a tzadik he's the sweetest person". But at home, watch out, you better lock that door and hide, that beast is home. It took years to unravel the damage that was caused by his selfish, uncontrollable behaviour and to disassociate that from the way i perceived hashem. more on this later...

I don't want this blog to become a place just to attack our society. But, to gain something out of it as well. If you feel the need to vent, then vent. But, please try to refrain from using the "heavy" curse words, as it will lessen the impact.

Hopefully through a sense of community we will be able to give each other much needed chizuk so that we can finally enjoy life a little. I think we have all been through enough to deserve it.and remember

No More Abuse No More Excuse